Remembrance, Holidays, and Gifts

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When separated for the holidays, its difficult to show your boyfriend or girlfriend how much you truly appreciate them, and especially with the tight budget of a college student, but here are some helpful tips that can make the holidays apart go a bit smoother.

1. Try making a handmade care package of some of the things you know your loved one would appreciate.  C3, the convenience store in Coates carries all sorts of candies, cookies and treats you can send.  Also, the Trinity bookstore carries cards and decorative paper for stationary purposes.  Fill a box with goodies, love letters and photographs for a sure Christmas gift.  Even stores off campus like Michael's in the Quarry carry tons of holiday decorations to make sure your gift is bursting with tinsel and holiday cheer.

2.  If your artistically challenged or think you lack creativity, maybe an E-Card or simple letter is for you.  There are plenty of internet resources out there to help you write a silly love poem, or even decorate a beloved picture. There is a site called Picnik, that enables a user to decorate a photo they upload with a variety of "stickers", text and special effects.  Also, you can never go wrong with a lyrical love letter!

3. Another option is gifting in someone's honor or place, which is easy and charitable.  Trinity does the Angel Tree, in which students buy gifts for a child that would otherwise be gift-less.  If charity and community service is you or your loved one's passion then maybe choosing an Angel from the Angel Tree and making a child's Christmas is better than any material item.

Basically, when it comes to the holidays, its like the saying goes, "it's the thought that counts", any gift, no matter how cheap or insignificant will be appreciated, especially when it comes to that special person. A box of christmas cookies, love letters, goofy pictures or the name of the Angel from the Angel Tree will suffice in putting a smile on your loved one's face.

How to Pass the Holidays

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In a long distance relationship, holiday's spent away from your loved one can be a definite downer, but Trinity offers a lot of holiday activities like Halloween Hotcakes to easy your pining soul.  Throughout the fall, with Thanksgiving, Christmas and other holidays, its important to not dwell on the absence of your significant other, but rather, be involved in the Trinity holiday spirit, and spread cheer to your boyfriend or girlfriend.  Try baking a batch of cookies and sending them to your loved one, even a simple, "Thinking of You" card is surely welcomed.  Also, if cooking is too difficult, filling a box with candy or instant hot chocolate packages as a post-Halloween surprise is always nice.  Remember to keep yourself occupied and try and focus on the positive things in your relationship.  Trinity provides ample opportunities to take advantage of, and to be involved.  One upcoming event is the annual Fall Drag Show.  While it may not be your first choice of holiday escapades, the Drag Show guarantees a good laugh, and enough fake eyelashes and fishnets for an entire year.  Also upcoming is the premiere of the Urinetown, a play put on by Trinity's Drama Department.  All in all, there are plenty of activities, even in the wake of the holidays, to keep everyone busy.  If you find yourself down and bummed, try a Skype-date with your boyfriend or girlfriend and maybe watch a movie at the same time, even a television show will work, and just try and hang out like you normally would.  Forcing conversation and calling non-stop can seem nagging and, because remember, your loved one is busy too.  Basically, making it through the holiday season irritating separated from your loved one is tough, but there are a few things you can do to assuage the sadness.

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Remember to Take Care of Yourself!

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When involved in a long distance relationship it is important to maintain good personal health.  Make sure you get enough sleep every night, you eat healthy meals, and you take care of your body and mind.  By taking care of yourself, you also improve your mentality towards your relationship.  If your well-rested and feeling good, your attitude towards your significant other will be more positive! Here at Trinity, its much too easy to get stressed out over schoolwork, overdue projects and reading assignments, and that buildup of stress is unhealthy and will contribute to negativity towards your loved one and others.  Also, taking care of yourself should be foremost, because in order to make anyone around you happy, you must be happy yourself.  Loving yourself is the first step to letting someone else love you.  Also at Trinity, when homework and activities pile up, your loved one should not become a venting outlet, those negative comments dilute relationships. All in all, its vital to the success of long distance relationships to maintain a healthy self image and confidence.

Being communicative and involved!

Have A Long Distance Relationship that Works. 2009. Photograph. Primer Magazine. By Sydney Pendle. Web. 6 Oct. 2009. .

When your in a long distance relationship, its pivotal to the success of the relationship to be communicative. Being communicative and being receptive to your partner's feelings is very important.  The distance eliminates many aspects of communication, therefore vocalizing emotions becomes central to long distance relationships. Also, it is important to try and establish common activities that you and your partner make partake in at your different schools.  Here at Trinity, its easy to get wrapped up in Nacho Hour, the Study Abroad fair and other activities, try and convince your partner to join clubs, teams or groups and his/her school also.  The time you spend doing activities helps take up time you might otherwise be spending moping and pining for your girlfriend or boyfriend.  Also, by joining a club or team, you have creating a conversation topic and established something you can share with your significant other.  There are many activities and clubs here at Trinity that can help alleviate some of the sadness that comes along with being separated from someone you admire.  Continually, things like intramural sports and Amnesty International offer an outing that some people dearly miss when they are not able to go out with their boyfriend or girlfriend.